Shame is an emotion that we all share as humans in fact our shame helps us to be culturally acceptable and to fit in and develop community and social norms. For example the old analogy of “what will the neighbors think” was a great way of keeping everybody culturally and socially connected, you’ve probably experienced the shame of being gossiped about or peer pressured when you break the norms of your family, friends or social groups. Shame is the innate feeling of I’m not good enough, I am un- lovable and I am fundamentally flawed, sometimes this is linked back to early childhood issues, example parents being emotionally absent or unavailable in infancy.
Does any of this sound familiar? If so you are not alone, it is completely normal and it means you are human. The key to managing shame is self awareness, of how you react when you are feeling shame, some people manage their shame by becoming rageful others will withdraw some will over eat, gamble or drink excessively and shame is heavily linked to addiction. With the support of therapy or coaching you can become more aware of what triggers your shame and be well on the way to a more confident happy you. If you’d like to learn more about shame you can read New York Times Best seller, Healing the Shame that Binds you by John Bradshaw.
We also have our in house psychotherapists and clinical hypnotherapists available to support you in your business mindset for personal development and improved leadership skills if you would like to know more about this please call Macushla on 0420 364944.